You’re a faithful parent. You love your family.
Last month you discovered your spouse’s affair, and today you receive divorce papers. How do you feel?
Marriage Related Items
As a young person, I longed to be married and have a family. I studied several books on this. I watched parents of really great families in my church hoping to model my family after theirs.
During my time of trying to save my first marriage, I bought and read two books by Michele Wiener-Davis:
Later, I bought a pair of marriage seminar leadership packages created by respected licensed marriage counselor Michele Wiener-Davis. I obtained a certificate that would allow me to present these seminars.
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Christie Brinkley, Peter Cook Reach Divorce Settlement on Fox News
Christie Brinkley’s divorce is a classic case that illustrates why we cannot afford to see divorce injustice as a men’s rights issue only.
Prayer That Makes Things Happen
Prayer is not about getting God to obey you on command. I know it may sound obvious, but when the pain of a situation becomes extreme, it is easy to get angry with God and start making demands. And, many people find God becomes quiet and distant rather than coming to help.
But, don’t lose hope. There is a proper and effective way to move God.
How can I save my marriage?
- What do I do if my husband or wife is having an affair?
- How can I know if my husband or wife is having an affair?
- Can my marriage be saved after adultery?
- Where can I find help to strengthen my marriage?
- How do I know if someone is right for me?
If your marriage is in crisis, or if you are engaged to be married soon, getting the right help fast can make all the difference in the world.
I have a dream…
That victims of adultery and divorce will no longer have to pay for the sins of the perpetrators.
I have a dream…
The rights of the faithful and their children to live together in love enjoying the shared family assets will no longer be stolen by a cowardly nation or destroyed by an unfaithful and dishonest parent.
I have a dream…
One day faithful parents will no longer endure slander and shame for sins they did not commit, and that the unfaithful should no longer prosper from such slander.
That American courts will no longer destroy the families of small children for profit.
I have a dream…
One day our government, people, legislators and courts will have the integrity, love, and honor to defend the rights of citizens to enter into legitimately binding marriage agreements.
I have a dream you will love and share this dream with me
Several years ago, an organization called Marriage Savers came into some communities, met with pastors, and came up with an agreement that they would not marry people until they had gone through some marriage preparation first. And divorce rates dropped sharply.
One author named Michael Webb claimed said,
“An estimated 83% of divorces would not take place if couples asked each other the right questions”
Someone else jokingly said, “Of all statistics, 92.7 percent of them are made up.” And herein I violate one of the principles of good writing, and that is not to invalidate oneself 
Especially with incomplete sentences and unprofessional smileys.
Statistics and joking aside, I know with absolute certainty from the testimonies of many people in various marriage and divorce related professions that premarital preparation improves the likelihood of success in marriage.
Eileen and I purchased this book and went through them before we went to our church’s premarital counseling with our pastor. I was a little afraid at first wondering whether this would cause us to touch on sensitive issues that might lead to a breakup. Instead, it helped us open up and actually have fun with these questions, and when we did go into marriage, we felt confident and secure in our love. We knew where we stood on the things that matter to us and our marriage has not been filled with all the fighting and unexpected and unpleasant surprises many marriages face.
When I see orders come through for this e-book in particular, it makes me happy. Our commission is small compared to some of the other e-books, but while I am happy other couples are getting help with their marriage crisis, I am always happier to see people have good marriages from the start than have to deal with serious problems later. That is not to say couples will have a hard time if they don’t get this particular book or that this book is the only one of its kind, but it is a good book and I’m glad Eileen and I got it before we were married.
Having said that, I do have to say that I am bothered a bit by some of the e-books Michael Webb has been making available lately. I don’t see him as though he were going off onto a new-age direction as Oprah did, but some of his e-books of late seemed to be overly focused on physical intimacy, and I have had to stop carrying his complete relationship package because of it. Even so, I found this e-book and the two e-books on 50 Secrets to Blissful Relationships to be excellent.
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Have you ever wondered why divorce rates are said to be as high in the church as they are outside the church? Here at GodsBlogs.com, we hope to have God help us to make a major difference and bring Christian marriage back to Christian marriage.
In America and in many countries, it may be considered illegal or unethical to discriminate against a potential employees based on marital status. However, business always benefits when those employees who are married have happy, healthy relationships with their families.
When one employee is dragged into a marital crisis, it not only affects his or her work, but it affects the rest of his team and the productivity of the company.
How Companies Benefit While Helping Employees
Companies are wise to invest in fun, family activities that help strengthen the bonding between employees, their spouses, and their children. Company picnics can give employees and their families a greater love for the company and cause employees to become more invested into the success of the company.
Marriage Counseling Employee Benefits – Pitfalls
Many companies provide employee assistance benefits that include marriage counseling. However, the problem with these plans is that they often funnel employees into a narrow choice of counselors who may be very good at counseling but terrible at saving or turning around marriages in trouble or helping couples restore joy and health to their marriages.
This is not said to disparage counselors or to say they all lack skills in this area. But, what often happens is old psychoanalysis is applied and the counselor begins a search for the root of the problem listening to both spouses perhaps individually and together just to see how they react to each other. They believe if they can get to the root cause of the problem it can be solved by getting the couple to make promises to each other to do some things differently.
What happens is something entirely different. Old wounds are opened up, and the couple feel pain. And, now with promises in hand, they are on heightened watch waiting for the other partner to violate those promises, expecting it, on guard, ready to fight back. So the couple end up fighting more than they did before they went to counseling. But, the counselor believes this is OK because now the couple are communicating better at a deeper level and if they will stay with this counseling, eventually things will get better.
The problem is, things don’t get better, and after many sessions lasting weeks, months, or years, the counselor and the couple finally conclude the marriage cannot and should not be saved.
Positive Solution Oriented Help for Marriages
Michele Weiner-Davis agonized over her parents’ divorce as a young woman. She studied counseling and worked in her profession for years until she became disappointed in the lack of success she had saving marriages. She asked other counselors and they experienced the same thing. So, she began researching other solutions.
She began focusing on the solution rather than the problem. Rathering than digging deep to find the root of the problem, she began to ask what couples were doing just before things began to get better. She began to get couples to identify specifically what they want to happen and to learn to look for the first signs of that happening. Of course, there is more to her methodology than that which can be explained in a short article here. But, she began to have tremendous success saving marriages within only one or two sessions. She began writing books and giving seminars and training to other counselors who experienced similar success using her methods.
Michele’s Marriage Saving Resources
The book she is famous for was called Divorce Busting, though her newer book, Divorce Remedy contains most of the material in Divorce Busting with some newer research. She also developed an audio seminar called, “Keeping Love Alive”, and a video seminar called, “Marriage Breakthrough”. I went through both of these and became permitted to use these in presentations. If you ever have a chance to be involved in these, I recommend them highly.
These materials are secular, so they would be appropriate for a company to give employees the opportunity to attend one of these seminars. It can do wonders for their marriages and help your employees be happy and perform better on the job as well while increasing morale within the team. It can also endear your employees’ families to you and your company.
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